We all know the feeling of walking into a large room filled with tables and wondering, “where should I sit?” It may be a wedding reception, or a banquet, or a conference. We have learned to look for place cards with names on them. If those exist, it then becomes a simple matter of trying to find our name. If there aren’t cards we begin to evaluate the room. If there is going to be music do I want to be close or further away from the speakers? (That may also depend on what type of music is being played). Where will the speaker be standing? I want to be able to hear. Where are the kitchen doors? I may not want to hear all the kitchen noise. If there is a bar, I might not want to deal with the traffic back and forth. If hungry, we might even quickly evaluate which tables will be served first. Of course, if there is a close friend already seated we may want to sit by them if there is room at their table (or maybe there is someone we want to avoid).
Some people want to hide in the back, but others want to be noticed. They especially want to be seen sitting with “the right people.” That is the group that caught Jesus eye as he was invited to a feast. He speaks about that in Luke 14:7-11. His basic instruction would be, “don’t sit at the head table unless you are instructed to do so.” It would be embarrassing for someone to assume they are to be at the head table, to sit down and perhaps begin to enjoy a beverage and make small talk with the other people there, and then to have someone come up and ask them to move to the back because they are in someone else’s seat! It is always better to be asked to move up rather than be asked to move back.
That is good social advice, but Jesus is not just helping us learn etiquette and avoid embarrassment. He uses that situation to teach an important spiritual principle. In verse eleven he says, ” For everyone who exalts himself will be humbled, and he who humbles himself will be exalted.” He is referring to our standing before God. If we approach the Lord hoping he will notice how significant or good we are, he will help us see our true condition by humbling us. If on the other hand, we recognized that we are spiritually bankrupt and have nothing to offer God except our empty hands and great need, he will lift us up in his grace. That is the point James makes in James 4:6 where he states, ” But he gives more grace. Therefore it says, “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.” A few verses later he instructs us: “Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will exalt you.” Isaiah says, “For thus says the One who is high and lifted up, who inhabits eternity, whose name is Holy: ‘I dwell in the high and holy place, and also with him who is of a contrite and lowly spirit, to revive the spirit of the lowly, and to revive the heart of the contrite.” (Isaiah 57:15).
It is good to learn to reign in our self-promotion in social settings, but it is essential to recognize that our pride will separate us from our creator and savior! “Humble yourselves, therefore, under the mighty hand of God so that at the proper time he may exalt you,” (1 Peter 5:6 ESV).